How to stop comparing yourself?
This is a big question for a lot of ladies.
We may compare ourselves when we are younger and haven’t developed a good self-esteem.
We may compare ourselves to the ex-girlfriends that our partners dated and feel insecure about that connection.
Another comparisonitis case comes up when we are jealous or envious of someone’s life. Something perhaps we consider unattainable for ourselves in personal or professional life.
But the worst one is the woman who came between you when you are married or in a stable long-term relationship.
Say, your partner cheated on you and you’ve since made up but you can’t stop comparing yourself to another lady. You are wondering what was it about her that attracted your partner.
When feelings such as envy, jealousy come up it means you don’t accept a very strong part of yourself. And also it means you are not on your side. You are playing against yourself.
No amount of talking yourself out of it about how she is not perfect and probably snores at night, or any other idea that you try and use to help yourself feel better, will help you get over this feeling.
You look at this lady, and you feel all those nasty emotions.
You are comparing and usually, in your fantasy, she is winning.
This is very unpleasant.
The more you compare the more you feel like you are not good enough.
There are two things to consider.
At that moment of comparison you are rejecting a very strong part of yourself.
Perhaps you haven’t allowed yourself to experience that sort of feeling or that sort of power or characteristic and now this part signals to you because it wants to come alive and to be set free.
It’s probably time to do that.
So the first thing that is important to think about when stuff like this comes up:
What am I not allowing myself to experience in my life?
Who am I not allowing myself to be?
What is it that I don’t allow myself to do?
There are various cool techniques that I share in my course which you can use to work through the feelings and thoughts that come up when you start honestly answering these questions.
In this way, you will start connecting, meeting that side of you that was previously suppressed, barricaded and that had no permission to live.
When you use these questions and allow those parts to revive in yourself, you will feel novelty entering your life and a sense of gratitude to those women instead of jealousy or envy.
Being cheated can become a massive move towards renewing yourself and creating a new reality.
If you are ready to discover the power of your sexuality and the new life that is available to you, sign up for the upcoming course “The Power of Your Sexuality.”